3 Daily Steps to Finding your Purpose

I’m gonna be real honest with you guys. I’ve had a lot of jobs in my short 37.90 years on this earth. A LOT! I started working at age 12 as a janitor. I hated that job. One time, I recall actually laying down and attempting to nap. Thank God my work ethic has increased over the years. Over the years I’ve been a:

waitress ( a terrible waitress)

grocery store deli (meant slicer and chicken fryer)

grocery store cashier ( I was so bad they sent me back to the deli)

video store clerk ( back when you could rent a VCR)

gas station attendant


retail store manager

personal assistant

insurance sales agent……..

I was embarrassed.  I wondered why, by the age of 25, I just couldn’t seem to find my place like all the people around me. It was depressing. Why was I so unhappy with every job? Was I going to hop from job to job my entire life? Or was I going to be a housewife like I was told I would be when I was a young girl? There is nothing wrong with staying home to raise a family but something inside of me knew there was more.

The opposite of depression is purpose.

Who knew that the next step I would take would be the step that led me down the path I had been searching for.

My first day as a dental assistant I just knew I had found my place. I loved being able to comfort people and knew that eventually, I wanted to play a bigger part in patient’s preventative care. So, even though it took me nine years to get my associates degree, I finally became a dental hygienist. Unfortuanalty, my feelings of complacency didn’t last for long.  I soon found that my favorite part of the day is when I’m able to help patients solve a problem, whether it be dental related or personal. Helping people solve an issue lights my soul on fire.

That’s why I created this blog. To help people who have faced darkness, dig deep within themselves to find their strengths. Everything we need to survive this world is already inside of us. Sometimes we just need a little help finding it.

My entire life people have made the same comment. “It’s amazing you’ve turned out so well.” I never really knew how to react to that or why I turned out the way I did, while others took a different path. But after a lot of soul-searching and personal development, I figured it out. It’s my purpose!

I wasn’t born into my situation because of bad luck and neither were you. There is always a reason!

You can't change your situation. The only thing you can change is how you choose to deal with it. 1


Here are 3 daily tasks you should be doing that will guide you to your purpose.

  1. Practice gratitude

If you’ve read my other posts you have probably noticed this is a recurrent theme. Practicing gratitude is hands down the #1 thing you should be doing daily. Personally, it’s the first and last thing I do every day. In my head, before I even get out of bed, I go down the list of everything I can think of. Some people prefer to keep a journal. I think the idea of having a visual is pretty powerful and can only show you how abundant your life truly is.  Whatever works best for YOU.


2.  Expand your mind

With today’s technology, there is an abundance of resources for growing our minds. I used to read to escape my life ( I literally read all the twilight books……. like 3 times.)  Now, I read to expand my mind. I love how books have transformed me. But, not everyone likes to read. Another great option is audiobooks. There are several options but the one I use is Audible.

Podcasts! If you have never listened to a podcast, that is your homework this weekend. There are SO many brilliant minds out there sharing their knowledge and all you have to do is listen……for FREE!!!! Now, because I’m not tech savvy and I have a Samsung, I just use the app that came with my phone called Podcast Addict but most people use iTunes.

My top 2 podcasts for helping people find their purpose are:

Don’t Keep your day job- Cathy Heller

Earn your Happy podcast- Lori Harder

Another part of expanding your mind is being open to anything and attached to nothing. Our minds have been conditioned to limit our thoughts and beliefs by what we can see, feel or what we have been told is truth. DO NOT limit yourself. There is a whole world, full of magic, just waiting to show itself to you.

3. Build a tribe

Call it a network, a family, a circle or a tribe. Either way, you need to surround yourself with a group of like-minded people who are cheering for you and you for them.

People who will be honest with you.

People who will build you up.

People who will help you reach your goals.

People who will listen with their whole heart while you cry because you feel like you’ve failed for the 100th time.

People who will take your hands, help you to your feet, dust you off and remind you that failure is an opportunity to begin again but with more intelligence.

I know that with the demands of day to day life, adding anything more might make you feel like you may burst at the seams but TRUST ME………there is time!!

I go through my gratitude list before I even get out of bed. Then, while I’m getting ready for work, during my commute and during any housework, I listen to either podcasts or audiobooks. During my lunch break or in the evening I check in with my tribe. Sometimes I’m a supporter, other times I’m asking for support.

My motto:

If you’re not growing, you’re dying

I make a point to grow every single day. Wheather it is 3 minutes of meditation (part of being open-minded) or 1 hour of my favorite podcast while I’m folding laundry. Every day is one step closer to fulfilling my purpose and living my ideal life. I want this for you too!

Do you have a tribe? Do you need a tribe? The Smile Effect could be that family for you. If you’re interested, reach out and WE will build that support system to help us break through these barriers and live that life we’re meant for.



2 comments on “3 Daily Steps to Finding your Purpose”
  1. Linda Rhoades says:

    Another great blog! I also listen to a lot of audiobooks during my commute to work – if you get a library card, you can download audiobooks through your public library free! Thank you for your uplifting, helpful thoughts!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Hi Linda, YES the library is a GREAT resource. Thank you for mentioning that. Who doesn’t love free? Thank you🙏❤


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